I can’t remember where I found this list. It was years ago. But I go back and look at it every now and then.
Top ten signs you’re falling in love:
10. You are comfortable and secure in your relationship and trust that your partner won’t hurt you.
9. You have remained together through good times and bad.
8. You can be yourself with your partner more than any other.
7. You’ve forgotten your past relationships.
6. You can’t stop thinking about your partner and anticipate time together.
5. You have great chemistry.
4. You don’t notice others as much.
3. You love spending time together.
2. Other priorities take a back seat.
1. You start thinking about your future together.
Now, if you are like most people, you immediately begin to think about your relationship with someone you love. If you are married, you’re checking to see if you still have “it.” If you’re not married, but in a relationship, you start evaluating the 1 through 10 to see how close you are.
Everyone wants to be in love. Everyone wants to feel loved, pursued, and desired. Everyone wants to know that they mean that much to someone else. God grafted that need into our DNA.
Go with me, though, to another thought here. In Ephesians 5:22-33, Paul gives instructions to wives and husbands and how we are to relate to one another – wives submitting to their husbands and husbands loving their wives as their own bodies. Then he makes this statement in verse 32:
“This is a profound mystery, but I am talking about Christ and the church” (NIV).
According to Paul (and the Holy Spirit), the relationship between a husband and wife is simply a reflection of the relationship between Jesus and the church (those of us who belong to Christ). If that is the case, we are to submit to Jesus in everything, because He has loved us by giving Himself (His body) up for us. We are in a love relationship with Jesus, having been loved, pursued, and desired, for God grafted that need into our DNA. The need for Him.
This picture is one of intimacy. The church is called the bride of Christ in the Revelation, being beautifully dressed for her husband. Ephesians 5:26-27 describes Christ’s work in us to make us clean and holy, so we can be presented to Him “as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.” Wow! Jesus pursues us, desires us, washes us, prepares us, all so that we can be presented to Him one day at the wedding of the Lamb, pure and holy and madly in love with the One who has saved us.
I just can’t get over that! Why would the Creator of oceans and mountains and trees and bluebirds, take something as ugly and sinful and messed up as me, and pursue me and desire me and make me beautiful, all just so He could prepare me for an eternity with Him?
It’s the love story of the ages! The greatest One who ever lived wants me! And you!
I heard someone say last night that until we fall in love with Jesus, we will never be able to really love someone else. We can’t really submit to our husbands, and they can’t really love us sacrificially without the love of Christ in us. Other relationships will never measure up until they simply reflect the great love of God. On this day when we celebrate all the love relationships in our lives, it might be good to take a look at that top 10 list again.
10. Are you secure in your relationship with Jesus?
9. Have you remained together through good times and bad?
8. Can you be yourself with Jesus and not feel the need to hide?
7. Have you let go of your past?
6. Do you think about Jesus often and anticipate your time with Him?
5. Do you have chemistry (anointing) through cooperation with His Spirit?
4. Do you not notice others’ disapproval or offenses as much?
3. Do you love spending time together with Him?
2. Do other priorities take a back seat to Jesus?
1. Do you start thinking about your future together in eternity?
Are you in love with Jesus? Because, Beloved, He is madly in love with you! All other loves pale in comparison.
“The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing” (Zephaniah 3:17, NIV). That’s Jesus saving, delighting, rejoicing, and singing over you!
So enjoy this day, and celebrate those you love. And even if you find yourself without a significant other today, then celebrate the One who loves you to death.
“For your Maker is your husband – the Lord Almighty is his name…” (Isaiah 54:5a).