“If I were your enemy, I’d seek to disintegrate your family and destroy every member of it. I’d want to tear away at your trust and unity and turn everyone’s love inward on themselves. I would make sure your family didn’t look anything like it’s supposed to. Because then people would look at your Christian marriage, your Christian kids, and see you’re no different, no stronger than anybody else–that God, underneath it all, really doesn’t change anything”–Priscilla Shirer, Fervent (71).
Priscilla Shirer, in her book Fervent: A Woman’s Battle Plan for Serious, Specific, and Strategic Prayer, shares this introduction to “Strategy 4–Your Family: Fortifying the Lives of Those You Love.” If there’s any place in our lives as women that we will get aggressive when necessary, it would be on behalf of our family. The problem most of us seem to have, however, is placing the blame where it belongs.
In this chapter, Shirer describes the all-too-familiar example of the strife and conflict that enters our homes–between husbands and wives, parents and children, siblings, and even with our extended family members. What we often fail to realize is that Satan is orchestrating these conflicts. He knows exactly what buttons to push and what words to whisper in our ears to anger and upset us.
Part of the strategy for fighting back involves recognizing the work of the enemy for what it is. Shirer relates:
“Wherever discord is present, he’s never too far away. And as most of us sadly know from far too much personal experience, no wounds cut as deep or cleave us at the core of our existence more than the wounds we receive at the hands of our family” (78).
So how do we approach these strategies of the enemy against our families? We fight back with prayer–not just weak, “Lord, bless my family” prayers–but specific, Scripture-charged requests, asking God to intervene in our situations. The Scriptures Shirer shares at the end of the chapter are specific promises and instructions from the Lord to guide us in our prayers.
Our families are prime targets of the enemy because he wants to ruin our witness as Christians. He wants to keep us from being the light and salt that God has called us to be. If we allow him to sidetrack us by blaming those in our families, then he wins. Instead, we need to come together in agreement against our common enemy and pray. We need to pray for our spouses, pray for our marriages, and intercede for our children with the Word of God and in the name of Jesus.
Are you tired of the enemy having his way with your marriage, your children, or others in your family? I recommend getting a copy of Fervent and putting these suggestions into practice.
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