There are very few things I will fight over. I just value peace too much to waste time arguing about stuff. But when it comes to the spiritual battle for my family, I’ll tear your eyeballs out. You don’t want to mess with my man or my kids, ’cause I’ll be like David slinging rocks. You know what I mean?
Let me share a passage from the Word of God.
“Then Jesus left Capernaum and went down to the region of Judea and into the area east of the Jordan River. Once again crowds gathered around him, and as usual he was teaching them. Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with this question: ‘Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife?’
Jesus answered them with a question: ‘What did Moses say in the law about divorce?’
‘Well, he permitted it,’ they replied. ‘He said a man can give his wife a written notice of divorce and send her away.’
But Jesus responded, ‘He wrote this commandment only as a concession to your hard hearts. But “God made them male and female” from the beginning of creation. “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.’
Later, when he was alone with his disciples in the house, they brought up the subject again. He told them, ‘Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery against her. And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.’
One day some parents brought their children to Jesus so he could touch and bless them. But the disciples scolded the parents for bothering him.
When Jesus saw what was happening, he was angry with his disciples. He said to them, ‘Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of God belongs to those who are like these children. I tell you the truth, anyone who doesn’t receive the Kingdom of God like a child will never enter it. Then he took the children in his arms and placed his hands on their heads and blessed them” (Mark 10:1-12, NLT).
I am not writing this post to discuss divorce or what marriage should be or shouldn’t be. Instead, I want you to see that if you have a family, you have an enemy. The devil hates marriage and strong families. He hates homes in which the parents bring the children to Jesus. His weapon is division–divorce, strife, enmity, confusion, causing parents to feel “scolded,” as if they are wrong to bring their children to Jesus by having family worship or putting them in a Christian school or home schooling them; that they are “old-fashioned” to only listen to Christian music or not allow certain movies or video games; that they are “too-sheltering” to keep their teens close to home and not allow them to go out and do whatever they want, whenever they want.
But Jesus is FOR marriage and home and family. Jesus wants husbands and wives to stay together. He wants to bless their children. This whole passage follows a teaching in which Jesus said not to stop those who are using His name to do good for someone else. He told them if they caused one of those who trust in Him to stumble, they would be better off dead. Hands cut off. Eyes gouged out.
This is how I feel about Satan. He is the enemy of me and my family. He will do everything he can to cause one of us to stumble. But I will fight for my family. I will use the weapons of warfare that God has given me, and I will stand my ground. Armed with truth coming out of my mouth, faith in what my God can do, prayer that agrees with God’s Word, I will fight. You should, too.
So, what are some strategies for fighting this battle?
Know that if the Holy Spirit leads you to protect your children contrary to culture’s expectations, follow the Lord. At the end of the day, it really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.
Pray in the Spirit in every room of your home. Walk around outside your house and pray for God’s spiritual, emotional, social, and physical protection over your family.
Make a list of Scriptures that you can confess over your spouse and children. Pray those verses aloud over your family. Pray together with your spouse and with your children.
Have family dinner at the table as many nights of the week as possible. Read a devotion together and talk about it. Don’t allow cell phones at the dinner table or the television to be on. Just be with each other. Connect emotionally with your children. Ask about their day and listen to them actively with your attentiveness.
Remember who the enemy is. When the devil seeks to bring division, be quick to recognize his tactics and join together in prayer rather than fighting one another. Satan is crafty. Be wise to his strategies to divide and conquer. Commit that nothing will come between you and your spouse or children.
No, I’m not literally throwing rocks or clawing someone’s eyeballs out. But you better believe I can sling some truth at the devil.
You think you can have my family?