Most of us probably struggle with knowing who we are and how we measure up. We so desperately want to be approved of, we want to be good enough, we want to know that we are pretty enough, smart enough, talented enough, spiritual enough. Enough for what? I’m really not sure.
I’ve struggled with these questions all of my life. Am I as good as the next person? Will others approve of me? What if I mess up? How do I deal with failure? What if my children don’t measure up to someone else’s kids? Does that mean I failed as a parent? What if someone else is a better teacher than I am? Have I failed as a teacher, a wife, a child of God?
Honestly, I believe these questions and struggles come straight from the pit of hell. Satan wants to keep us bound in the “good enough” mindset. He wants us to constantly question and doubt ourselves, compare ourselves to others, be jealous when others succeed, especially at what we think God is calling us to.
May I share some good news with you today? You are not good enough. You don’t measure up. And you don’t have to. Your Creator made you in His image and calls you into a personal relationship with Him. When you accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior, your identity changes. You no longer belong to the enemy or to the world’s standard of what is good enough. You are set free from ALL of that, and you are now approved by the Father because you are in the Son and filled with the Spirit.
You see, when we truly find our identity in the One who created us, we no longer need to be enough. We no longer feel the urge to fit in, succeed in the world’s eyes, be approved of by those around us. We will find our rest in His loving arms and our identity in His Word.
“For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, ‘Abba, Father.’ The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children” (Romans 8:15-16, NIV).
The enemy will come along and try to make us feel condemned and not good enough, but we need to recognize his tactics and stand on the truth of God’s Word to us.
“We have not received the spirit of the world but the Spirit who is from God, that we may understand what God has freely given us” (1 Corinthians 2:12).
We are not subject to the world’s standards of what is beauty, knowledge, or success. Do you struggle with feeling beautiful in the world’s eyes?
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight” (1 Peter 3:3-4).
This verse is not saying that we shouldn’t wear jewelry or fine clothes, but that our beauty should not come from that. In other words, we can quit striving to look just right to be beautiful. Instead, we should seek to have a beautiful spirit that submits to God. That is true beauty. Don’t believe me? Well, that definition comes from the One who created the mountain heights, the ocean waves, the night sky, the hummingbird, seashells, waterfalls, and every thing of beauty on the face of this planet. I think He is the final authority on what is beautiful.
Do you struggle with being approved of by others, doing enough to be accepted, working hard enough to be thought highly of? Whose acceptance are you looking for? People’s or God’s?
“Then they asked him, ‘What must we do to do the works God requires?’
Jesus answered, ‘The work of God is this: to believe in the one he has sent'” (John 6:28-29).
Believe in Jesus and follow Him. That’s what God approves. A heart that seeks Him. Seeking the approval of others will almost always lead us into sin, confusion, or disappointment.
“Am I trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ” (Galatians 1:10).
Bottom line: When we become followers of Jesus, our standards change. We don’t live any longer by the world’s standards, so we can stop trying to meet them. Whew. That’s a relief, isn’t it?
Hallelujah! Jesus sets us free from the trap of trying to be enough. Praise God, He is enough. I don’t have to be pretty enough, smart enough, successful enough, or popular enough. I don’t have to work hard enough. I don’t need the most likes, follows, or shares to be accepted or approved of. I don’t have to hide behind a mask of enough.
I am the beloved of the Lord and I am SECURE in Him because He loves me.
That is enough.